I'll Have What She's Having

Content Warning: This section of the guide includes themes of sexual content, substance use, and addiction.

Handler reflects on her experience in therapy. She used to say she’d never go to therapy just like she said she’d never use emojis. She also thought she’d never fall in love. Then she met Jo Koy. Her friends and sisters teased her about posting about him so often. She describes their relationship and how different she felt now that she’d been through therapy. The longer they were together the more her loved ones worried she was losing herself. Handler was sure she wasn’t. She was learning how to be in relationships differently.

Handler reflects on her breakup with Jo. After their honeymoon phase, they began to fall apart. They tried therapy but it couldn’t fix their problems.

Handler acknowledges that if this were a different kind of book, she’d reveal exactly what happened between her and Jo. Instead, she says they simply weren’t right for each other. She describes how close they were but insists she ultimately had to choose herself. Handler attributes her perspective to therapy. She felt sad after the breakup but also knew who she was.